The G-Chord is Still Ringing in My Ears

The other night I was chatting with Anderson Red and Smilie when we got on the subject of Anderson Red's relationship with guys. I've come to accept that the statement of "Guys are JERKS!" does not usually include me, mostly because if it did include me then the girl wouldn't really be telling me about their problems with OTHER guys. I've also come to accept that the said comment will always be used when a girl is having issues with one or more guys.

On the flip side, we also had the opportunity to hear a little bit about Smilie's relationships as well. Along came the female counterpart "Girls are stupid!" Now the odd part is that this is also a statement used by the girls, at which point they tend to include themselves as well. (I would tell you about the commonly used terms brought on by the male gender, but I can't think of any that you can count on showing up in every conversation . . . and if I did they probably wouldn't be well received by my readers.)

I thoughtfully listened to the two of them tell about their woes and internally analyzed it all. (I'm sure that I would have thrown in my two cents of dating woes if I actually had any, but my life thrives on being serene and thus maintains an eternal issue-less front.) Then I decided to tell them my story.

It was around mid-term of last semester that I really started to get to know Segwa. I walked her home and we went to lunch together. I was pretty certain that there was interest so I asked her out. The night before the date was to occur I decided to be the gentleman and call to confirm the date. I think this wasn't the best idea because it gave her the opportunity to tell me how sick she was and that she most likely wouldn't be the best date to have fun with (I know that it probably was the truth, but still was a lame excuse.) Luckily I get cheap entertainment in seeing how quickly I can get a date on short notice. (My record is giving her 30min. warning.)

Since we had a lab together we where still able to talk a lot and have some fun, so I opted to try for another date, she was excited till she realized that she already had plans with her brother and had to turn me down, chalking up a second strike. Being the kind of person that loves to have confirmation on all things I decided to go for a third and final strike. She said "yes" to a tentative day but it was the end of the semester by now and thus lab was over, so I decided to call a couple of days before the date was to happen to solidify the what and when. Unfortunately she wasn't home and so I decided to leave a message with Segwa's roommates. The next time I heard anything from her was actually just a couple of days ago. (Seriously, it was just this Monday that we crossed paths and said "Hi" to each other.) I waited to hear back from her, figuring that she would want to know about when we'd be going and what we'd be doing. When I never heard from her I just decided that it wasn't going to happen, strike three.

I've had time to think about this now and as much as I had figured that she was just another "stupid girl" I came to realize that maybe I'd become the quintessential "JERK!". Let me explain, assuming that everything up to strike number three was just all mishaps and ill timing and that strike number three came about due to the fact that the roommate never gave Segwa the message, and instead on the chosen day she had gotten ready for the date and I basically ended up standing her up.

Of coarse sometimes guys really are jerks, and sometimes girls really are just stupid, but then there are times where we all just make mistakes and everything goes wrong. The moral of the story? Guys, stop being "jerks" and girls stop being "stupid".